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Thoughts on ties between fathers and daughters

Readers respond to articles and discuss community, national and regional issues.

The United Nations Security Council votes on a resolution to condemn continued Israeli settlement expansion. A reader says that the US veto damaged its credibility in the Middle East. John McIlwaine / AFP / United National Photo
The United Nations Security Council votes on a resolution to condemn continued Israeli settlement expansion. A reader says that the US veto damaged its credibility in the Middle East. John McIlwaine / AFP / United National Photo

I just finished reading Rym Ghazal's opinion column Fathers, daughters and a relationship close to the Arab heart (February 17) and did it ever strike a chord in me. I'm still trying to come to terms with my relationship with my dad. I just spent a week with him after years, and it wasn't easy. Why is it that father-daughter relationships in our culture are always so awkward?

Ms Ghazal addresses this in her article but I think it's because our mothers probably subconsciously also separate us from our fathers in the sense that they do not nurture a father-daughter closeness, and after generations and generations of that happening, we're supposed to think of that as normal. Anyways, it got me thinking. Nice article, and as a Muslim, I also appreciated how the author was able to tie in examples from the Prophet and his family.

Sabah H, Lebanon

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Rym Ghazal's article sure does assault the tear ducts yet apprehends fundamental and time-tested home truths across cultures. As a father of daughters, I can indeed relate to the father who picked up his daughter and gave her a hug and a kiss. That's the way to go for all young fathers of today as opposed to the standoffish approach of yesteryear. In this emerging generation, gender bias has been neutralised to pave the way for joint parenting.

The father-to-daughter emotional ratio is proportionate to the mother-son ratio and together sums up a balanced and healthy family value system.

The greatest father-daughter relationship in Islamic history is a divine manifestation of how every father in the world dreams and wishes to see his daughter treated with honour bestowed by society.

RKS, Abu Dhabi

US bias means an exercise in futility

The news article Fatah and Hamas united in anger at US (February 20) reported on the reaction of the two Palestinian factions to the US veto of a UN resolution condemning Israeli settlement expansion. Widely seen as a tactic to force Palestinians back to the negotiating table with Israel, a US veto of this UN Security Coucil resolution smacks of more hypocrisy in its policy towards the Middle East.

As an American, I am deeply disappointed in my government. It's not enough to say that the US objects to settlement building in East Jerusalem; until such a time as the US is willing to "walk the talk", our credibility will be impugned and peace talks are an exercise in futility.

Elan Fabbri, Dubai

The problem of energy loss

I refer to the news article 1 in 5 cooling units face ban (February 20). While the efficiency of cooling units has a great impact on power consumption, it is probable that a lack of effective insulation, particularly in older buildings, has a greater impact.

In the UK, householders can claim grants to improve insulation in their houses and this has had a dramatic impact on power consumption across the country, particularly during the high consumption months of the winter season.

In exactly the same way, if landlords were given grants to improve the insulation of their buildings, it could have a similar dramatic effect in the hot summer months when the demand is at its highest.

Obviously there would have to be a strictly controlled mechanism to administer the grants. But it is a tried and proven system and could be of great benefit.

Jeremy P Weeks, Abu Dhabi

Another aspect of parking woes

In reference to the article Drivers have permits but nowhere to park the car (February 16), I would like to express my frustration at the lack of parking spots in the Corniche area. To ease the problem I would like to suggest that the number of premium parking spots be reduced. It seems the number set aside for premium parking is too high as they are generally unused.

Secondly, large rubbish bins occupy numerous standard parking spots. By moving these bins to another location (for example, on the kerb) more parking space will become available for paying residents.

Finally, it is frustrating to see that parking for Mawaqif employees is reserved in standard parking areas when there are numerous unoccupied spots in the premium area where these employees could park their vehicles.

SH, Abu Dhabi

Spare us the football kerfuffle

I refer to Much ado about nutting (February 19) about the kerfuffle between Gennaro Gattuso and Joe Jordan. The powers that govern football today make some woeful decisions when it comes to disciplinary action; more often than not, too little too late. Just give us fans a great game and we would not miss the likes of Gattuso or Jordan.

Peter Machado, Dubai