x Abu Dhabi, UAETuesday 25 July 2017

Life Lessons: Adriana MeBarr

The life coach Adriana MeBarr gives us her philosophies on life and how to cope with it.

Life-coach, Adriana MeBarr photographed at her home-office in Dubai, United Arab Emirates on Tuesday, December 7, 2010. Photo by Siddharth Siva/arabianEye
Life-coach, Adriana MeBarr photographed at her home-office in Dubai, United Arab Emirates on Tuesday, December 7, 2010. Photo by Siddharth Siva/arabianEye

Be responsible for the life you have. The life you are living today is a result of what you did and what you didn't do yesterday. As much as we sometimes don't like to accept it, we are living the consequences of the choices we made in the past. If you don't like what you see, start imagining how you would like things to be and break it down into achievable steps, acting on step one today.

Trust your intuition. If you feel that life is steering you along a path you don't want to travel, then stop, breathe and listen. Follow your instincts. Take action and don't get swept away. Move in the direction of where you want to go.

Focus on creating happiness. Feeling happy is about how much attention you are giving to what works in our lives instead of focusing on what isn't. If we are going to wait for life to treat us fairly it might take a while until we reach contentment. Even if there are things in your life that are not exactly as you would like them to be, stop and think about everything that is working. Don't forget the simple things such as your health, friends and family. We often take the basic things for granted.

Devote yourself to your best cause - "me." We talk so much about devoting ourselves to charitable causes, imagine what would happen if we all devoted some time to ourselves? How would you talk to yourself in your head? Would you remind yourself about why you are such a great person? Positive self-talk is key. To create the world we all want to live in, we must take responsibility for our own worlds, as they add up to the world as a whole. If you don't like what you see, change your own world.Forgive yourself and others. In any given moment, we did what we did because we couldn't do any better at that time. Whether you were feeling pain, anger, sadness or joy, acknowledge that this was the way you felt and acted upon. Accepting this reduces guilt and blame.

 

As told to Jemma Nicholls