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Forgiveness makes a good business tool

Great leaders know the art of reconciliation. One factor that sets the truly inspirational leaders apart is their ability to let any feelings of anger, resentment and blame fall away.
Forgiveness liberates the soul, it removes fear. That's why it's such a powerful weapon, said Nelson Mandela after leaving prison. Rodger Bosch / AFP
Forgiveness liberates the soul, it removes fear. That's why it's such a powerful weapon, said Nelson Mandela after leaving prison. Rodger Bosch / AFP

Forgiveness can make us a better person but does it make a better leader?

"An eye for an eye … ends in making everyone blind," Mahatma Gandhi said.

The knee-jerk reaction of too many people in leadership positions when they feel wronged is righteous indignation and the urge for revenge. But one factor that sets truly transformational leaders apart from the run-of-the-mill is the ability to forgive - to let feelings of anger, resentment and blame fall away and become something constructive.

Great leaders know the art of reconciliation.

"Truly transformational leaders are acutely aware of the cost of animosity," notes Manfred Kets de Vries, the Insead distinguished professor in leadership development and organisational change. "They realise the havoc that can be created by an unforgiving attitude… holding grudges is a form of arrested development; it holds people back.

"Many organisations today are like gulags. People are anxious, there's a lot of paranoia. [But] what should be remembered is that people who don't make any mistakes don't do anything. They're too busy covering their backs. They're not going to try anything new."

In organisations where you know that if you make a mistake you're going to be fired, there is a culture of fear that stifles productivity, he notes.

"Leaders who can tolerate mistakes, who see them as learning opportunities, are those who create a great corporate culture," Mr Kets de Vries says.

"Forgiveness offers people the chance to take risks, to be creative, to learn and to grow their own leadership capabilities. Holding onto resentment, bitterness and spite is not what transformational leadership is all about."

Forgiveness, he claims, builds loyalty and good citizenship. People working in organisations that have been instilled with a forgiveness culture are more likely to make an extra effort, which has important consequences for the bottom line. It also helps transgressors to have a more positive outlook on the future.

Leaders today operate in settings in which strife is rife and, if left unresolved, could have severe implications for their organisation. But by walking the talk and encouraging a culture of forgiveness, leaders promote an organisation that looks to the future.

In his paper "The Art of Forgiveness: Differentiating Transformational Leaders", Mr Kets de Vries highlights one of the most obvious examples of transformational forgiveness with his comparison of two very different African political leaders.

"When you fly over Zimbabwe you see a wasteland, when you fly over South Africa you see something very different: two leaders with very different attitudes towards forgiveness.

"If I ask my class which living political leader do you most admire, 95 per cent say Nelson Mandela. When you ask why, the answer is forgiveness."

At the end of South African apartheid and after 27 years in prison, Mr Mandela forgave his oppressors and encouraged many of his party's members who clamoured for revenge to do likewise, telling them: "Forgiveness liberates the soul, it removes fear. That's why it's such a powerful weapon."

In comparison, Robert Mugabe opted for bitterness, vindictiveness and hatred against white Zimbabweans and the nation's black citizens who opposed him.

By encouraging supporters to forcibly occupy white-owned commercial farms Zimbabwe, once the bread basket of southern Africa, became the poor house. Under his rule, unemployment rose to between 70 to 80 per cent, life expectancy fell. In mid-November 2008, Zimbabwe's peak month of inflation was estimated at 6.5 sextillion per cent - making the national currency basically useless. A "clean-up campaign" targeting the slums where his most hardened opponents resided left 200,000 homeless.

It may seem impossible forgiving someone you believe has slighted or taken deliberate action against you. But the price for bearing a grudge can be high.

Numerous studies have shown that bitterness and hatred create stress disorders, negatively affect the immune system and are positively correlated with depression, anxiety, neuroticism and premature death.

"In comparison," says Mr Kets de Vries, "taking the high road of forgiveness contributes to greater spiritual and psychological well-being, lower anxiety levels, less stress, lower blood pressure and lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse. People who forgive more readily also tend to have fewer coronary health problems."

Lives are not calm flowing rivers. Relating to others whether friends, strangers or family members is always accompanied by the risk of being hurt.

We cannot change what has happened; there is no "delete button" for the past. So the crucial questions are how we choose to deal with transgressions and how we metabolise the feelings, warns Mr Kets de Vries.

Leaders can work on certain traits to enhance their ability to forgive but there is always a delicate equilibrium between nature and nurture.

"One element that can help is having empathy, the ability to put ourselves in others' shoes. Why are certain things happening? Why did that person do that? Can you really imagine why, or is your mind so stuck there is no way you can?"

The other element is the degree of emotional control. "When you get angry you can feel the anger rising in your body," Mr Kets de Vries notes. "It's important to recognise the feeling, to remember what happened last time it occurred, perhaps you blew up, refused to forgive and the situation got worse.

"But forgiveness is not forgetting. Realistic forgiveness is about healing the memory of the harm not erasing it," Mr Kets de Vries says.

"Forgiving means not being a prisoner of the past. Truly transformational leaders like Mandela, Mahatma Gandhi and Aung San Suu Kyi seem to have figured this out. When we forgive we don't change the past but we can change the future."


This article is republished courtesy of Insead Knowledge

Updated: July 19, 2013 04:00 AM